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 A conversation is like a journey, with the speakers going from one place to another. Or a good tennis match. Where the ball goes from one player to the other. And back. In other words, there’s reciprocation happening. You say something and I reciprocate. And then I say something and you reciprocate. And then we both feel heard and understood and all tingly because somebody “gets” us.
Examples of good sentences to use for satisfying conversation:
  • Let’s go back to what you were saying earlier.
  • Can we return to the previous point?
  • I can’t quite see where you’re heading?
  • I’m listening – Go on!
  • We’ve covered a lot of ground.
  • I was just coming on to that.
  • You’re on the right/wrong track.
  • We’ve wandered off the topic.
  • We keep going round and round in circles. Lets get to a point and then have some tea.

Non-conversation goes something like this: ( and I regularly have it with some acquaintances)

“So how’ve you been?”

“Well, I….”

“You know what I did yesterday? yada yada yada yada yada yada ………….”


“And you say the kids are well?”

“Yes, they…….”

“My son at varsity is coming to visit and yada yada yada yada yada yada………..”

“I once………….”

“And did I tell you about yada yada yada yada yada yada yada   X100………………”


” You’re awfully quiet today, what’s going on?”

“Actually, I…….”

“You know, yesterday I said to yada yada yada yada yada yada yada yada…..”



This is me swallowing so much air I need to leave the room and go and swear somewhere. LOUDLY.



(ps. Thanks for listening.

I feel all tingly now because somebody “gets me” . And I think we’ve reached a satisfying point, don’t you? )




* Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a

delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know

that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most

men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially

his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.* Prepare yourself. Take fifteen minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed

when he arrives. Touch up your make up, put a ribbon in your hair and be

fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.

* Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day

may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

* Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the

house just before your husband arrives.

* Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire

for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and

order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his personal

comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

* Be happy to see him.

* Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please


* Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but

the moment of his arrival is not one of them. Let him talk first – remember, his

topics of conversation are more important than yours.

* Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out

to dinner or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to

understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home

and relax.

* Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and

tranquility where your husband can renew himself body and spirit.

* Don’t complain if he’s late home for dinner or even if he stays out all

night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that


* Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have

him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

* Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgement or

integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always

exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question


* A good wife always knows her place.

(these “guidelines” appeared in a magazine called “Housekeeping Monthly” in 1955. I found them here.

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